Dating for shy introverts
Still, introverts, especially men, who Hartman and Cain agreed face different expectations than women, may find it difficult to ask out someone they've been messaging.
"That’s a lot to ask for someone who’s introverted, especially in an area already outside of his comfort zone," Hartman said.
One of the shades of introversion, Cain says, is that introverts don't share one particular way of conversing, and others might want to talk more.
Contrary to popular opinion, being an introvert doesn't mean I'm shy.
I consider myself an outgoing introvert, so I love heading out to parties and the like. It's different from shyness, which revolves around anxiety or fear of interacting with people.
If they focus on making others feel comfortable, they’ll feel comfortable, too.” Not getting enough out of a conversation — or worse, waiting for a message — can be a sign that two people don't share the same communication style."It’s a testament to why we’re all better off when we own who we are and are comfortable with who we are.” Those looking for introverts, Hartman says, can try a few strategies, such as watching out for quiet or short profiles, hobbies that introverts tend to gravitate toward, or a photo that doesn't give away much about his or her appearance.Many introverts experience an initial hesitancy to sign up for an online dating website, but Hartman says that discomfort goes away quickly.Five results came up, one of which ended up becoming his wife.“He shared the online profile his future wife had written, and you could see she was so charming and soulful in an introverted way," Cain said.