Dating a vulnerable woman
I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him. Because he had a reluctance to grow up, he wanted to stay young in as many ways as possible.Did/does it impact sex at all, for better or for worse? This was one of the many ways the relationship was emotionally abusive — sex was always ostensibly on the table, but no matter how much I threw myself at him, I was always rejected. The fact that this man didn't want to have sex with me in spite of claiming to love me, in spite of the fact that men allegedly always want sex, in spite of the fact that they allegedly especially want sex with much younger women — all of this made the continual rejection especially painful. We have different tastes sexually — I'm more adventurous — but that has nothing to do with age.
Woman D: I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me.I guess that was the biggest impact on the relationship — I let him mold me into the girl he wanted instead of being who I really was. I don't think they expected it to last because I had never been in a relationship before.What did/do you friends and family think of your relationship? A couple of my friends have similar stories about dating older men: they chose the person and not the age group. Woman C: My friends were much calmer than I thought they would be — a couple said they always thought I would end up with an older man.Woman D: The impact on the sex was definitely negative.At 18, I was just beginning to explore my sexuality and he was already comfortable in his.