Cherry blossom dating romance
If you’ve been Japan for more than 5 seconds and had any interaction with the opposite sex here, you’ll no doubt have already experienced some “Lost in translation” style mishaps from smashing against the language barrier and cultural differences.
Japanese culture is at times pretty much the exact reverse of western culture.
Not surprisingly, many Japanese girls/guys who are interested in practicing a foreign language are also quite interested and open to dating a guy/girl from that country.
Many times it’s a lot more like a coffee date than a language exchange.
How can you tell if a girl/guy likes you in a country where ‘yes’ can mean ‘no’?
Or read peoples’ emotions where pretty much no-one wears their heart on their sleeve?
Japan punts itself as being a very “homogenous” country.
The vast majority (upwards of 90%, I’d say) hardly have the opportunity to interact with non-Japanese unless they travel overseas.
Two other friends started dating guys they met at English lessons. And in fact, this vagueness, or “aimai” in Japanese, is a well-studied trait in Japanese communication which is designed to be somewhat ambiguous to preserve the “wa” or harmony.
You can find a language exchange partner in the classified section of many of the local English language magazines and there are a few sites specifically for finding a language exchange partner, e.g. Also there are language exchange groups on meetup.com, which are usually like a cross between language exchange and international parties. Be careful, most the guys you meet here are married (or otherwise taken) and just looking for the “American” experience (if you know what I mean). Walk around Shibuya and make eye contact with men, trying to get . Fun Cheapo Fact: In Japan it’s not uncommon for singles to spend hundreds of thousands of yen on “konkatsu” (婚活) or marriage hunting services!
As usual, exercise caution when arranging to meet strangers via the internet! ) housewives in Japan, apparently Ashley Madison is quite popular here. Men always seem to hit on foreign women at import stores. However we don’t think you need to allocate more than a few hundred yen for your dating budget 🙂Japanese tend to be very agreeable and don’t want to “rock the boat” or make people feel bad/uncomfortable.
Unfortunately, just getting the basic meaning across can be challenging enough.
You already know how important it is to keep communication simple, but in addition you want to make it interesting enough that even with no words at all, it’s worth paying attention to.